Steve, I'll try to shed a bit of light if possible. I've been reloading for 30 years and have been following the 10 since Mr. Cooper came up with it and the Bren10 chamber it.
Semi automatic cartridges like the 9mm, 10 [and it's little brother 40SW] get seated in the chamber and "headspace" - meaning the case stops going any further down the bore - by the mouth of the case hitting a point in the chamber. Look down the barrel of your 10mm and you will see where the case hits it. If you crimp too much, the mouth no longer hits that point, but goes further. This causes 2 issues 1- chamber pressure increases because the case mouth cannot expand fully, as it is now in the narrower part of the chamber designed for the bullet. 2- the primer has to extend further to hit the case, as it is too far into the chamber.
Revolver cartridges, like your 44 headspace using the rim of the case. The cartridge can only go to far, regardless of the crimp, because the rim stops it from going any further. So you will often see revolver bullets with cannelures. The cannelures are there so the case can be crimped [the mouth is actually rolled into the cannelure]. Because the case depends on the rim to position it in the chamber, the mouth of the case can be rolled into the bullet.
The reason some people tell you to crimp after and yet other tell you to crimp in 1 step is partly due to personal preference and part due to the hardness of the bullet. If you are using soft bullets, or those with a fragile exterior [plated, lead, cast], the chances of scraping the bullet is greater when you crimp and seat in 1 step. As you raise the press ram, the bullet is being pushed into the case while the case is being squeezed - you will get some scraping of the bullet. This is a huge problem with semi-autos and cast bullets. Why? As the bullet scrapes, it builds up at the case mouth. Remember the case mouth determines the position of the cartridge in the chamber. If you crimp too much, the cartridge goes too far down the chamber. If the cartridge doesn't go far enough [excess bullet material scraped up against the mouth], then the gun will not go into battery. You will see the slide slightly open and the gun will not fire.
If you are using hard, FMJ, soft points, etc. or loading revolver cartridges, it is not as important. If a little build up occurs, the gun will still fire - again, the revolver depends on the rim, not the case mouth.
For me, rule of thumb -
Loading for semi autos or accuracy rounds - seat then crimp
Loading for plinking revolvers - seat and crimp at the same time.
Hope this helps.
Rick