The time the bullet is in flight is pretty short, so the distance traveled has to be calculated into that to determine drop. It has nothing to do with bullet weight, it has to do with how fast the bullet is moving as that is the only variable which will affect the vertical location when that bullet arrives on target. (excluding outside factors such as wind)
Everything you say is true but there is one oversimplification.
In a given caliber, a heavier bullet typically means lower velocity since it's not possible to push a heavy bullet as fast out of a given cartridge as it is possible to push a light bullet. That means that, practically speaking, velocity and bullet weight are connected so you can't really say that bullet velocity has nothing to do with bullet weight.
That's really neither here nor there because at the ranges we're discussing trajectory is pretty much a non-issue in comparing the impact points of various loads from a given pistol. There's also another factor, and that factor, not trajectory, is the one that dominates in handguns at close range. That factor is how much the muzzle rises in recoil before the bullet exits the barrel.
If what you propose is true, putting a bullet on target with a subcompact gun would be nearly impossible as the mass of the gun is much closer to that of the bullet and it surely would be flipping up uncontrollably long before the bullet cleared the barrel.
That's a good point. At this time, take a second to visit the S&W site and look at pictures of the 317 and the 360PD and tell me what difference you see in the height of the front sights. You'll notice that the .357Mag lightweight revolver has a much higher front sight to compensate for the much greater muzzle rise compared to the same weight gun in 17Magnum.
If you look closely you'll see that when the sights are lined up, the muzzle of the 360PD is pointed noticeably downward.
The bullet is out the bore before the uncorked gasses produce sufficient thrust to then unlock the slide.
The slide begins to move backward as soon as the bullet starts to move. There are some videos below that prove it. The jet effect (gases escaping from the muzzle behind the bullet) is not required to unlock the slide, it is well on its way to unlocking before the jet effect even comes into play.
Muzzle rise is attributable to the jet engine you produce when the bullet uncorks the barrel. Before that occurs the inertia of the slide retains everything in alignment, or else your shooting technique would need to anticipate the lift due to muzzle rise, and we all know that isn't the case.
While it is true that the jet effect does contribute to recoil, it is the bullet's motion that contributes most.
Recoil, which produces muzzle rise, is a function of conservation of momentum. As soon as the bullet begins to move it has momentum and therefore as soon as the bullet starts to move the gun also begins to move in recoil. Anything else would violate the laws of physics. You are correct that the gun doesn't move a lot before the bullet exits the barrel but it doesn't have to. Just 1 millimeter of muzzle rise on a gun with a 6" barrel will raise the point of impact about 6" at 25 yards.
As a matter of fact, there is, in one sense, an anticipation of the muzzle rise. The sights anticipate the muzzle rise due to recoil. In fact, on a long barreled pistol it is often easy to see that lining up the sights will result in the bore being pointed noticeably downward. Here's one example courtesy of BillCA
and another off the web.
If you line up the top of the sights with one ruler and use a second ruler lined up to the barrel you will see that the two rulers diverge noticeably. That means that the barrel is obviously pointed downward when the sights are properly aligned for shooting.
For those who are still unconvinced, here's some undeniable proof. The video in the link below is a compilation of several slow-motion videos of firearms being shot. One segment of the video (from 2:13 to 2:37) shows an extreme slow motion closeup shot of the muzzle of a 1911 pistol. It is plainly obvious that the slide/barrel have started to move long before the bullet exits the barrel. There is noticeable movement for 8 or 9 frames of the video before the bullet is visible at the muzzle.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kq-xcqs5NIk
In a normal situation (where the gun is not held firmly against a sturdy rest) that motion would also have involved a bit of muzzle lift.
Here's another one. Put it to full screen and stick a post-it note or a bit of tape on your monitor so that it is exactly touching the bottom of the barrel. Now play around with the video until you get it stopped at a point between the gun firing and the bullet exiting the barrel. Look at the barrel and you'll now see some space between the bottom of the barrel and your reference mark demonstrating conclusively that the muzzle has risen prior to the bullet's exit.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BW93WQ98s-I
And another. If you look at these shotguns being fired, particularly starting about the 8 second mark you'll see that there's a considerable amount of recoil movement before the shot exits the barrel.
http://www.indyarocks.com/videos/Gun-Fire-Ultra-Slow-Motion-335584
I suppose it is, now and again, comforting to find proof that the laws of physics are still in effect.