If you hang around internet gun forums long enough and read enough threads, you'll encounter the full spectrum of opinion. If you mentally average it out, perhaps excluding some of the extremes, I believe you can get a pretty good idea of people's experiences. Not all of us, certainly, but more of us than you'd probably suppose, are every bit as well qualified as the most famous gun writers.
What could be better? Hang out at ranges and talk to people who own guns you're interested in, ask questions, see what else they've got to say. Rent guns. That may look like an expensive proposition, but all you need to do is rent one gun and realize it's not for you to pay for renting dozens of guns.
On my own, I bought a Thompson-Center Contender with a .22 caliber barrel for target shooting in 1977 or 1978. I joined a club, took it to a range, and liked the gun enormously—only to discover bullseye target shooting. I in no way regretted buying the Contender, but wished in retrospect I'd started hanging out at a range before I started taking accuracy seriously: I'd have started with a High Standard and bought the Contender later.
One of the old bullseye shooters told me something that's stuck with me all these years: "The only dumb question is the one you don't ask."