I did some searches on this situation but didn't really find anything. Need a reality check.
As a favor to a family friend I've been training a young woman, she's in her late 20's. I'm retired LEO and an NRA instructor. I've put her through firearms safety and the basics of marksmanship, I have been taking her to the range about once a month for the last six months and she is progressing fairly well and I am starting to move into self defense.
About a year ago she had separated form her abusive husband and moved to our area, there are no children involved and she is financially independent from him, she's pretty intelligent and has a Bachelors in Accounting. Six months ago she got back together with her husband and he moved to this area to be with her. A few weeks ago the neighbors called the cops on them during a fight in which he was wildly drunk and he was arrested for strangulation of her (a class 6 felony where I live). She refused to bail him out, got a restraining order against him, and stated she was going to file for divorce. He finally had some family from out of state come and post bond and he has left the state.
She now says she is not going to file for divorce, will not press charges, and will try to work things out over the next two or three years. She readily admits this guy is an alcoholic, smokes weed almost every day, has numerous mental heath issues, beats her and is abuse to her when drunk, etc.... Everyone is her family and even her husband's family says she should divorce him.
My dilemma now is that do I continue to provide her training when she refuses to remove herself from an abusive dangerous situation? I don't mind helping people solve their problems but will not make other peoples problems my problems. In this specific fact pattern I feel if I continue to train her given her poor life decisions I'll just be introducing a firearm into an already bad situation and I only seeing it making the situation worse rather than better. My plan is to refuse her further training when she next ask me.
Anyone ran into something like this before?
As a favor to a family friend I've been training a young woman, she's in her late 20's. I'm retired LEO and an NRA instructor. I've put her through firearms safety and the basics of marksmanship, I have been taking her to the range about once a month for the last six months and she is progressing fairly well and I am starting to move into self defense.
About a year ago she had separated form her abusive husband and moved to our area, there are no children involved and she is financially independent from him, she's pretty intelligent and has a Bachelors in Accounting. Six months ago she got back together with her husband and he moved to this area to be with her. A few weeks ago the neighbors called the cops on them during a fight in which he was wildly drunk and he was arrested for strangulation of her (a class 6 felony where I live). She refused to bail him out, got a restraining order against him, and stated she was going to file for divorce. He finally had some family from out of state come and post bond and he has left the state.
She now says she is not going to file for divorce, will not press charges, and will try to work things out over the next two or three years. She readily admits this guy is an alcoholic, smokes weed almost every day, has numerous mental heath issues, beats her and is abuse to her when drunk, etc.... Everyone is her family and even her husband's family says she should divorce him.
My dilemma now is that do I continue to provide her training when she refuses to remove herself from an abusive dangerous situation? I don't mind helping people solve their problems but will not make other peoples problems my problems. In this specific fact pattern I feel if I continue to train her given her poor life decisions I'll just be introducing a firearm into an already bad situation and I only seeing it making the situation worse rather than better. My plan is to refuse her further training when she next ask me.
Anyone ran into something like this before?