I am looking close at a bond arms darringer eather in .410/.45 , or something alot smaller.Does anyone out there have one and is the .410/.45 to much to handle or just alot to handle, i have heard alot of oppinions but not from anyone who has one. Next does anyone have a bond pistol at all if i decide the .410 is too much recoil i am still thinking about a 9mm in same said gun any advice.