May I make a suggestion: spend the money at the range.
You are asking someone(s) you don't know to give you a subjective answer to an subjective question, . . . and the very best honest answer you will ever get is simply: "It depends,.............."
Renting most guns is a $10 or $15 deal per gun, . . . per session, . . . and if you start out with one box of 9mm FMJ rounds, . . . you are at (using my local range prices) $45 for the guns, . . . $12 for the ammo, . . . $20 for 1 hour of range time = $77.00
If you pick the wrong gun based on Bubba's answer, . . . you will lose that $77 just in your first trade, . . . plus you will always wonder, . . . Did I make the right choice.
Personally, . . . I have medium large hands, . . . love shooting anything that has .45 (not .454 mind you), . . . but I don't know of any 3 or 4 9mm guns I would trade for my beat up old Rock Island GI special (if I had to keep em and carry em and shoot em,
), . . . but that is just me.
I gave away a perfectly good, . . . totally reliable, . . . .380, . . . just because it had a snappy recoil that made me "think" before I shot, . . . and that affected my ability to shoot accurately with it.
Spend the cash, . . . you'll have fun, . . . and be wiser for the experience.
May God bless,
Dwight