As others have stated, a lot of the longevity of brass cases is dependent on the technique of the handloader.
That said, I have found that 45's last forever. I have some cases I can no longer make out the headstamp, and they keep on going. I attribute this to low pressure and taper crimps.
Revolver cartridges I have found that the flare and crimp stages have the greatest effect on the brass life. I like a firm crimp, and load cast bullets exclusively in my 357 mag brass. Consequently the flare is maybe a bit more extreme than it would be with jacketed bullets, to assure easy bullet seating. I do lose a few of these each time I load. What is nice about it is that the mouth will crack just after flaring, so it is easy to tell that there is an issue before proceeding to powder charging etc. I have not had 357 brass fail as a result of firing the cartridges however. The flaw will not be visible until flaring, IME, so inspections of the brass before beginning the loading procedure does not reveal this latent failure.
I have noticed that after 2 trimmings of revolver brass, I know they are on their last legs. Also, low to moderate charges in general in revolver brass *seem* to have a beneficial effect on their life expectancy. The full house charges seem to weaken them.
Bottleneck cartridges which headspace on the shoulder can be very durable if one exercises care in setting back the shoulders only as much as necessary. I try to get .001 to .002 inch setback, so long as they chamber in a bolt gun. There too I trim each time I fire them, and typically only skim a small sliver off the case mouths if I have properly sized them. With my "shell shucker" automatic rifles, if I can find the brass, I load maybe 2 or 3 times, and leave them for the next guy if he wants them. I always full length resize to the maximum amount per the instructions on the die set. --Having experienced OBD only one time, I do not wish to experience it again, so for me at least, maximum sizing on these cartridges is a safety consideration. (I also tend to choose rifles with some sort of safety sear setup in them to avoid a recurrence of the OBD -- but these are pretty scarce, leaving maximum sizing the only really viable option I can ascertain).
Lastly, bottleneck cartridges which headspace on the rim, such as 303 brit or x54r, I have determined to have C&H tool and die make a custom sizing die for me. They do this by me sending them 3 cartridges that were fired in the rifle in question, and they do what they do, and I get a die back from them in a couple weeks. I simply follow the instructions provided, and by far, this brass lasts the longest, and there is no fiddling about with die setup. The issue here is that since the brass headspaces on the rim, often the shoulder of the chamber is rather long, and of course the brass blows forward to fill the gap on firing. If the shoulder is set back to original dimensions, and fired again, the brass becomes weak at the fire ring. The custom dies will allow for this and set the shoulders back only a little bit, extending case life indefinitely, IME. Too, if you ask them to, C&H will cut the neck portions of the die so that the brass is sized sufficiently to accept a bullet of the diameter you specify without the need to resort to an expander ball. In all, a very special setup.
Then of course there is annealing, which is a process I may experiment with at some point, which is reputed to extend brass life. I suspect in my uses, this would be most advantageous if used with revolver brass. --Maybe one day!
I hope this helps some.
Regards,
Stubb