With regard to the question about a 380 hollowpoint being enough, I'd answer it two ways.
1) For whatever reason, neither of the 380's that I've spent much time with (Sig 232 and Walther PPK) were what I would call completely reliable with hollow point ammo. Both worked flawlessly with FMJs, but they both had difficulties with hollow points--especially when they weren't given a strong grip. Any sort of limp wristing resulted in some sort of failure to feed--be it a stove pipe or a feed problem. The FMJ's fed reliably in all situations.
Given that observation, I really question the 'blowback' style gun, in a package suitable for the 380 ammo, to work reliably with ammo that doesn't fully mirror the FMJ profile.
Lack of reliablity in a CCW is bad thing, right?
2) Both 380's, when they did work with hot hollow point defensive ammo, were tough on recoil. Shooting fifty rounds out of either one would tax the web of my thumb and forefinger--and I'm not talking about the dreaded Walther-bite, I'm talking about fatigue from the pounding due to the blow back design.
If I was looking for a gun for a woman to carry, it would be a browning-style barrel release in 9x19. You want her to practice without getting burned out by the pounding that she takes from the gun and you want if to feed hollow point ammo reliably. Just about any compact 9mm will fill that obligation...
Just my two cents.