Funny how widely disparate the definition of "best .357 load" is. To some it's "What's fastest?" To others, it's "What's heaviest?" To others, it's "What has the most energy?"-- which is virtually the same as asking what's fastest.
To me, a good 180 is a great hunting load, but is a bit tough to control for multiple shots out of a large frame revolver, let alone a midsized. It will penetrate, to be sure. There are some that get worried about excessive penetration. (I'm not much worried about that.)
The 125g loads are capable of amazing energy, and have been known to create some impressive stops, but also have a tendency not to penetrate much. They can (and often do) blow up on the surface and may not make that 12 to 18 inch penetration envelope that we want to see.
I like the 158gr bullet weight, with a JHP or semijacketed SP.
Remington offers a superb 158g load in both SP and Semi-JacketedHPj that runs about 1235 fps.
Hornady offers their excellent XTP 158gr bullet in .357 Mag. This bullet is renown for giving good controlled expansion over a variety of velocities, along with very good accuracy. For some reason, the XTP line has been mostly the favorite of hunters over self-defense shooters. It's loaded to 1230 fps.
Speer produces their excellent Gold Dot 158g bullet in .357 mag. This another very good controlled expansion bullet, with a proven record of accuracy. They too claim 1230 fps.
Winchester offers two 158g loads in .357: the JHP and the JSP. Both are at 1235 fps. On a personal and unscientific note: while I really don't know much about them, I'd be much more willing to rely on them than Winchester's 145g Silvertip, which was most famous for failing to stop in the famous Trooper Coates shooting of 1990.
If you just want
silly recoil, there's the
Buffalo Bore Heavy .357 Magnum, in which they claim 1475 fps with a 158g JHP. Lord.
For real value, try
Georgia Arms. They offer a 158g JHP at 1200 fps,
for a mere $12./box of 50!!! $23.50 buys you 100 of 'em. That's just over half the price of other name brand manufacturers. I haven't tried this load, but I've tried their .44 Mag loads, and they are accurate and hot. I'm impressed with them.
Finally,
Federal offers their HydroShock, another JHP, and a JSP in 158g loads at 1230 fps. The HydroShock is a proven round that works.