Gary, i agree with the recommendations of the sig 239, that was one of the ones that my wife tried when we were looking for a new carry gun for her. however, her hands were small enough that she couldn't reach the slide release/catch without numerous gyrations of the firearm. so we went with the european styled 232 <.380> and it's perfect for her, she can reach all the necessary controls and handle it very well. <she out shoots me most of the time> the p-99 is also a good choice, i have one, and with the smallest backstrap it's a good fit for her, with the same exception of the slide release/catch. and i thought that big paws like mine were a pain, yet my p-99 is more comfortable in my hand with the medium backstrap...go figure. good luck, and remember, make sure that she tries each gun you look at, afterall it's for her. *grin*
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