jmr40 said it .......the Benelli Nova, 12ga, 28" barrel is an 8 lb gun .... and if you look at other pump gun specs, the Nova is a heavy pump gun.
That means it will give you less recoil - for any given shell - than a Browning BPS as an example. Recoil is from 3 Primary factors - Weight of gun, ounces of shot in shell, velocity of shell. An 8 lb gun ( for any given shell ) will give you less recoil than a 7 1/2 lb gun - no matter who makes either gun......
Now if a gun doesn't fit you / too much drop at comb - and it recoils into your cheek bone ( instead of under it ) - it will beat the stuffing out of you. I'm 6' 5" and 290 lbs - and I can shoulder and take the recoil from most any gun made / but if its beating on my cheek bone, I'm going to flinch after 50 rounds of that .... So as you pick a gun / you need a gun that " Fits " - so it hits where you look / your eye is the rear sight on a shotgun. If its recoiling into your cheek bone / its probably going to shoot high .... Its not about sucking it up / and dealing with it -- although I'm prone to do that as well .... a shotgun needs to hit where you look ! If at the end of a 200 shell day, your shoulder hurts, it may be gun fit, mount issues, dropping your elbow - any number of fundamental issues / maybe aggravated by Fit ( if drop at comb, drop at heel, or length of pull ) are not right for you. Shotguns do not come in one size fits all ..... And maybe 10% of people that sell shotguns / have any idea about this stuff ....they will often sell you what you have, make any number of foolish comments ....and I hear them all the time..