As I read the replies to this post, I am amazed at how subjective recoil really is. I purchased my 454 Ruger Super Redhawk about a month ago. I choosed the S.Redhawk based solely on how it felt in my hands. It felt better to me than the Raging Bull, or the Ruger S. Blackhawk (44 Mag.). Freedom Arms was too expensive to even try to fit it to me. My first firing session yielded a pleasent surprise. I was able to hit clay birds which was set against a high berm at 25 yards. Then I was able to hit the little broken pieces. All this was done without any prior adjustments to the sights. I was shooting Hornady's 240 grain Hollow point factory loads. Hornady claims 2000fps at the muzzle with a 7.5 inch barrel. Yes, thats 2000 feet per second. I found the pistol to be quite fun to shoot. Recoil was heavy but manageable. But everyone on the line noticed. After the 20 rounds were done, I shot 45 Long Colt Cowboy rounds (850 fps) through the 454 Super Redhawk. What a let down! (But they were cheaper) Now here is the kicker to all this. I am a thin boned male 5'4" at 140 pounds. My hands are proportioned to my height and weight. I love the 454 casull. And I love the Ruger Super Redhawk. I plan to hunt varmints with the 45 LC and deer with the 454.
Everyone will feel recoil differently. Not everyone will like the feel or fit of a firearm regardless of body type. The only way to tell if you will like it is to go shoot one.
Buy the way, mine cost $585 before tax, fees, etc... (Allentown, Pennsylvania)