I agree that a heavier gun would have lighter felt recoil. The 357 with 39spl low recoil rounds sounds best. She held one of the 10 oz revolvers that was unloaded once and was amazed how light it felt. Ofcourse not thinking about recoil, but the option of carrying in her already overloaded purse. I believe she is going to have to decide what's best for her. I will only make suggestions with the reasons why. She shot a 1911/22,-S&W model 10,- and a TCP738 the other day. She loved the recoil on the 1911, but too big to carry. the model 10 was ok, preferred single action mode, again a little too big for CCW. The TCP she immediately said she never wanted to shoot it again and hurt her hand. So far the things she wants is small, light and simple. I'm not sure yet if loading mag, racking slide and a safety is considered simple for her.
She's taking a class today and tomorrow , so she may have different views in them?