"A woman, a Batterer and a Gun"

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From San Francisco, a shining example of how well victim disarmament works...



A Woman, a Batterer and a Gun
- Joan Ryan
Sunday, January 8, 2006


Rebecca took out a life insurance policy on herself four years ago. She made her daughter the beneficiary. She was 51.

She believed that her husband was going to kill her. It was just a matter of time. She believes it still, even though she left him in 2001 and went underground through the California Confidential Address Program. She uses a phony address in Sacramento provided by the program (and is not using her real name for this column) to remain hidden.

Last summer, there were signs he had found her.

So Rebecca started carrying a gun inside a pouch in her purse.

What happened next is a sobering reminder of how the legal system is still struggling to understand the complex and vulnerable lives of battered women.

Rebecca had owned the gun since escaping from her husband. She bought it after the required 10-day waiting period and registered it in her name. She knew the police couldn't always be around to protect her. A gun leveled the playing field against a man bigger and stronger than she was. Maybe it would save her from becoming one of the 1,300 people killed in the United States each year in domestic violence attacks.

One evening last August, Rebecca was making the long drive home from Mill Valley, where she had to drop off some papers for a client. She stopped at an Albertsons supermarket in Half Moon Bay. She paid for her groceries, picked up the shopping bag and her wallet but left her purse at the end of the checkout counter.

The momentary lapse plunged her into a legal mess that has turned her from victim to criminal. She was arrested for carrying a loaded gun and sentenced last month by a San Mateo County court to 10 days in jail and 18 months' probation. Her conviction means she can no longer possess a gun, and it might jeopardize her participation in the Confidential Address Program.

"I'm 55 years old,'' Rebecca said by phone. "I've never committed a crime. I'm not a threat to anybody.''

Rebecca didn't think she needed a permit to carry a concealed weapon because California law waives the permit requirement for anyone who "reasonably believes that he or she is in grave danger because of circumstances forming the basis of a current restraining order.'' Rebecca had a restraining order against her husband.

What she didn't know was that the restraining order, which she understood to be permanent, had expired in June.

"The restraining order would have been enough to take it to a jury trial,'' said Ben Lamarr, the lawyer who represented her in court. "It would have created a technical defense, but without that, she didn't have anything.''

Rebecca's appeal of the sentence was approved this week. It means she can spend her 10 days working in the jail but won't have to sleep there. Still, the sentence will cost her $20 per day plus an additional $60 fee, not to mention 10 days of lost wages, the gas to drive from the county where she lives to the San Mateo County Jail and the $160 fine she already paid.

"It would cost me less to do the time,'' Rebecca said.

More important, the conviction leaves Rebecca more vulnerable than ever to her abusive husband. For one, the district attorney's office mistakenly included her actual street address on all its documents, which are public record. The office was scrambling on Friday to delete the information.

And two, she now has no protection. (I wonder whether San Francisco voters considered domestic violence situations when they voted in November to ban all handguns and what consequences women like Rebecca might pay.)

"I'm usually not in the business of trying to get anybody's gun back, but with this conviction, she couldn't have it even in her house anymore,'' said attorney Myra Weiher, who is trying to get the conviction set aside.

"This is scary stuff she's facing (from her batterer). Guys like this don't behave in ways regular criminals do. They're stealth. They're all about terror.''

Rebecca knows she made a big mistake in leaving her purse with a loaded gun at a public place. Her lapse was a potentially dangerous one; it should not be minimized. But how do we balance her mistake against the danger she faces every day from a violent man who left her crushed and fearful, whose beatings and threats drove her into hiding?

The law against carrying concealed guns makes good sense.(:barf: ) But so many women every year are killed by their abusive boyfriends and husbands. Restraining orders, as we know, can't stop them. The police often can't stop them. I don't know what the solution is. But something's wrong when, in trying to keep herself alive, the terrorized woman becomes the criminal.

E-mail Joan Ryan at joanryan@sfchronicle.com.
Apparently in the minds of the elite who rule San Francisco, a dead victim here and there is a reasonable price to pay for the advancement of their political agenda...
 
Ugh. That's such crap.

So, I took it upon myself to write the author of that article. DON'T WORRY. I was very polite and reasonable.

If she writes back, I'll let you know.
 
Thank God I live in Ohio, and not the west coast. the midwest is ok, i wish they all could be california..............girrrrrrlssssssss!!!

thats not right, taking away a 55 year old womans right to defend herself, mean while Dr.Dre, and her ex-husband, and probably walking down the street with their own nines and .45s. this just shows how california is really its own world, and really screwed up. i hope no one from california gets offended (i dont mean to do that). my mom is 57 years old, and at that age using her fists is out of the question in a life or death situation. this just shows how a real respected judge would cut her some slack, and just warn her, but allow her to carry again. not throw the book at her. all these "by the book", heartless judges make me sick.
 
I don't get it.

She breaks the law and gets nailed for it, and he's done nothing, yet she's pissed?

That's all that article really says.

Sounds like Betty Broderick to me.

Am I missing something?
 
Am I missing something?

Yes. You are missing practical application of the law.

This woman, who felt threatened enough and the state felt that she was threatened enough to enact a restraining order and seek the protection of the state (i.e. GO INTO HIDING) is getting the book thrown at her and her 2nd amendment taken away while Jorge Chavez and his 15 brothers are hopping the border illegally and getting away with it.

Sure they can't own guns either, but they're not protected by the 2nd amendment.

Stew
 
I know I'll be accused of blaming the "victim" but here goes:

Woman feels that she has a specific reason to fear daily that her life is in jeapordy and carries a gun. I think this is outstanding. However, under CA laws, she should know that owning and carrying a gun is problematic.

Also, where was the evidence that her ex husband or whatever was still a threat. Restraining orders expire after several years. I seriously doubt this guy had any demonstrated intention of tracking her down in the first place (because it's well documented that most of these are based on lies, fraud and often envoked ex-parte, meaning when the man isn't even present) or even years later.

Solutions:
IF she REALLY felt her life was in why doesn't she move to another city or better yet leave California and move someplace with more free gun laws. Why doesn't she pursue the restraining order to have it renewed, if she were truly losing sleep over it? Besides, anyone with a brain knows that restraining orders are worthless paper that are easily granted and free for the "victim" and if a person really wants to harm you s/he will not be stopped by a restraining order. She hadn't been harmed in years. Why was she still "living in fear" unless SHE, yes I said it, SHE was a mental case. Why would she carry it in her purse? Doesn't she know that that's the WoRST place a woman can carry a gun because it's the most likely thing stolen in a burglary, thus leaving her defenseless and the robber armed?

Bottom line, SHE seems to be the problem. SHE didn't follow up on the renewal of this "important" restraining order. SHE was breaking the law (albeit a stupid law, but a law just the same) by carrying a concealed gun. We don't know what her X's real story is, but there's no evidence that he was even a REAL problem. So, isn't SHE really the trouble maker here?

Finally, the author clearly shows her slant. What ever happened to fair journalism and just reporting the facts?
 
that is one squirrly article

It almost reads like it's the the exhusbands fault that she left the gun at the store. I'm sure the guy is a jerk and deserves to be beat or shot, but where is he in all this? It's easy to get a restraining order from an accused abuser....

Of course the other side of the coin is now the guy can probably find her a lot easier.....
 
She believed that her husband was going to kill her.
It seems to me that she chose poorly from the getgo. Perhaps her husband decided overnight to listen to the voices in his head and became a threat, perhaps other reasons factored into that particular equation. We'll never know.

We do know that she ended up breaking the law and got caught doing so. As leadcounsel pointed out, we do not know "his" side of the story based on the information presented, nor do we (I) care. Rebecca's carelessness in securing her personal defense weapon brought additional grief to her, just as her selection of husband might have brought about her initial reasons of fear.

Several good lessons to be learned from this excercise. Poor decisions can and do effect later consequences one might be forced to live with.

Here's hoping the best of outcomes to Rebecca and others in her boat.
 
I'm siding with the others here. Although I support her intentions of being able to defend herself, owning a gun is a full-time responsibility, and you have to be prepared for that responsibility if you wish to own and carry it legally. I don't agree with CA laws on the matter, but she didn't do her part in maintaining her legal status to own and carry a gun. It's called taking personal responsibility for your actions. If you don't do it, then don't whine about the results. The fact that her restraining order expired at a certain date was not withheld from her and I'm sure if she'd examined it she would have known that. There is no such thing as a PERMANENT restraining order. Not to mention her reckless attention to carrying her gun...that is totally inexcusable. Leaving a loaded weapon somewhere so it's accessible by everyone SHOULD come with some reprocussions. IMHO she got what she deserved.

Hopefully her lawyer was astute enough, given her record, to ask that adjudication be withheld once she completes her sentence. If, after a completing her sentence (and learning her lesson about gun ownership) she has enough justification she can move to get the record expunged and be able to own/carry a gun once again.
 
A prosecutor has wide discretion on how to handle something like this. Many states have diversion programs where the person pleads guilty but imposition of a sentence is withheld for a year. At the end of the year, the charge is dismissed if there have been no problems and a conviction never appears on the record. One suspects something like this could have been done except for the fact that it was in S.F.

Also, last paragraph of the article shows the degnerating state of the media when the reporter mixes her opinion with a profile, "The law against carrying concealed guns makes good sense."
 
Yes, she screwed up by leaving her purse and the gun at the store - 100% her fault, no excuse.

That having been said, she was in fear for her life - her ex was stalking her. In spite of the convoluted legal technicalities involved, the woman should have been able to lawfully carry a gun, seeing as how the state of California and its police forces are not responsible for her protection, according to the edicts issued by the courts.

So what we have is this: The police are not responsible for her safety, and the courts won't let her take responsibility for it herself. She's spposed to go about her life and just hope that her ex doesn't track her down and kill her. That is 100% wrong, no matter how you look at it.

She could have ran away and gone into hiding - but she shouldn't have to.
I say an innocent person should not have to run and hide from a predatory thug. She should be able to go about her business - armed to the teeth - and protect herself any way she can.

There's something fundamentally wrong when the state refuses to allow a person the means to defend their life and at the same time refuses to protect them from a known threat to their life.
 
Let's assume for a minute that she COULD lawfully carry a concealed gun. As someone else pointed out, carrying a gun is a big responsibility. She failed miserably by carrying it irresponsibly (I think most would agree that a purse is not a good choice because it's the first target for thieves thus arming the badgun and disarming you) and also by LEAVING it at a store. Thus, she should get into trouble for leaving the gun behind, and that's not even considering she was carrying it illegally.

If any of us that have CCWs and legally carry left our guns someplace, we would expect to get into trouble and pray that nobody gets hurt with our gun.

Yes, she seems to be very bad at making decisions. She married an abuser, failed to follow up on renewing a restraining order, and carried a gun illegally (although I can't really fault her for that because I don't think women or men should be required to get permission), but then she left it behind in public. Bad news.
 
Update: the author of the article has yet to return my email explaining why she believes laws against concealed carry are a good thing, even when this causes the innocent to be unable to defend themselves (even though I gotta agree - this chick didn't act responsibly at all).
 
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