122-135 gr bullets work best for most people that I know.
Hollow base bullets usually shoot quite well.
For cast bullets, I like that same weight range (122-135 gr).
For plated bullets, I prefer 120-125 gr.
For jacketed bullets, on the very rare occasion that I load them, I use 124 or 125 gr HPs, or jump to 147 gr FMJs.
If you ask the self-appointed "experts" within my shooting group, you'll hear that no truncated cone or conical flat point will ever shoot well. But, those idiots have only ever tried those designs in commercial cast super-hard alloys. And their only complaints
at the time were of extreme barrel leading (caused by bad bore-to-bullet fit, the hard alloy, and +P velocities; you dimwits!).
So, in my opinion, they never gave the bullets a fair chance.
If you shoot cast bullets, continue reading. If you plan to stick with plated or jacketed bullets, feel free to skip the rest of this post.
Personally, I shoot primarily 122 gr LFPs (conical flat point). They're good enough for potatoes and rabbits at 15 yards, and that's all I can expect. With handguns, even a "bad" load is more accurate than I am.
Right now, I'm still working through a large supply of BHN 17 commercial cast bullets that I bought a few years ago. They're harder than I like, and do cause some notable barrel leading (which does degrade accuracy), but they're still good enough and the price was unbelievable.
In the limited amount of accuracy testing that my skill will allow (and drawing experience from other cartridges and firearms), I have found that softer alloys usually perform better.
In handgun cartridges running 25,000 psi or more (9mm is 35k), I like my bullets right around 9-10.5 BHN (even for full power .44 Mag). That's super-ultra-mega-extra-soft, compared to most commercial bullets; and even softer than clip-on-wheel-weight alloy. But it seals the bore better, and results in significantly less leading (if any).
I have a new 135 gr HP mold (0.357" diameter) sitting here. Soon, I'll give some of those a try in an alloy around BHN 8-9.