Here's my take on the subject:
.44mag guns used: 4" Taurus Model 44
5 3/4" Redhawk
Factory Ammo & Comments:
180gr Remington: Agree with previous posts that it is a fast, sharp pulse on recoil. Best ammo for exploding melons and other fruit and filled gallon milk jugs.
240gr Winchester White Box: One of the best stock rounds for the "Magnum Experience", i.e. muzzle blast, noise, concussion, moderate recoil.
305gr CorBon Flat Nose Penetrator: Yawn. Recoils less than the 240gr WWB
320gr CorBon Hard Cast Lead: See comments for the 305gr
Favorite Handloads (so far):
240gr LSWC @ 1,000 fps.
240gr XTP @ 1,400 fps (Wow!)
300gr XTP @ 1,200 fps
It might just be me, but I don't find the recoil of any of these to be unpleasant. Of course, the Taurus is fairly heavy and ported, and the Redhawk is very heavy (but not ported).
I second the opinion that if you want to shoot it a lot (and you should), you have to handload. It will pay for itself very quickly. I use a Dillon 550B and a variety of powders including HS7, AA7, Universal, and H110 with excellent results.
John Limbach