Moderate recoil and fast follow-up shots? That's sort of like saying "I want to become a Catholic, but I don't want to take part in confession or communion."
Ya got the wrong outlook!
You can load a 44 Mag like a 45 ACP or a .357 magnum, but if that's what you're going to do, then you should get a 45 ACP or a .357 magnum.
I like the Ruger New Super Blackhawk with a 10.5" bbl. Mine is stainless and has large Hogue grips. You want a single action with a long barrel. Single action because it's stronger than a double action. Long barrel because magnum powders need a barrel to burn in. For maximum strength you don't want a fluted cylinder or a cylinder on a crane, not in this caliber. The heavier the gun is, the less it's going to pound on you.
My Ruger is sighted in for about 75 yards, but it has a large ramp front sight that you can "adjust" for sight pix at various ranges. I've shot at silhouettes out to 300 yards, but that's really hard to do, and I can't hit them without a bench rest and lots of rangefinding.
Hodgdon H110 is the powder that seems best suited for magnum loads. And you want to load for the 44 mag, not spend a fortune on some watered-down commercial factory loads. Hercules/Alliant 2400 is the powder Elmer Keith used for his load "22 gr. of 2400" with a 240 gr. bullet. This load is off the chart these days, but it's still used in the heavy guns like the Ruger Blackhawk.
240 gr. bullets are standard, but they offer 265 gr. and 300 gr. Check the 300 gr. to see if they clear the end of your cylinder. Mostly the 300 gr. are for rifle loads.
Load heavy and fire slowly. If you want to toss off a cylinder of 44 mag, a single action is probably as fast as you want to go.
I'm a "recoil junkie." I like recoil in large handguns. Nonetheless, every time I shoot a heavy load in a heavy frame 44 mag, I wonder if it wasn't "double charged." The gun doesn't "flip" or "snap" or "push" like other handguns. It hammers.
Shoot a few with some heavy handloads before you buy. You wouldn't want to marry some woman you'd never kissed . . .