Ok I need some opinions please. I currently am debating on my first hand gun. I was considering a .40 because I want something with more stopping power than a 9mm but I didn't want to get something so big as a .45 because of recoil. I mean I don't know it just seems logical that a larger caliber is going to have more kick. I also realize there are more factors involved than just caliber. The thing is as i read more and more on this I am hearing that .45s are smoother and have a softer recoil than a .40. My question is are .45s more controlable than .40s and do they tend to have a softer recoil??? I want to know what is going to be the best in terms of being able to get back on target faster.