ninjatoth,
I understand you prefer the relibilty of the revolver. But the reliability is only slighty more than most good autos, and some autos actually are more reliable than revolvers!
Now I grew up on Smith "K" frame and Colt "O" frame handguns. Read Smith .38s and Colt .45s. I know the magnum round very well.
Now I have several .357s, the longest barrel on them being 3 inches (a 686 Smith.) But I pack a Glock. I have several of them to!
Say compare a M66 .357 2 1/2 barrel Combat Magnum (which are not cheep anymore) to a Glock 27 in .40 S&W.
Full power 125gr .357s will, for say a 125gr slug, get 1350 fps from the 2.5 inch barrel (and I have a M66 2.5 Smith and that is what it gets.)
The Glock 27 will get a 135gr JHP at 1300 fps, and 155gr at 1200 fps. I carry a Glock 27 and know it well to.
So they are pretty close in power.
But the M66 has more blast, fewer shots, longer DA trigger pull, and very slow reloading.
Now with that being said, if you can shoot well and fast, the 6 shot snub magnum revolver will get you through most realistic self defense situations fine and dandy. Just get a Dillon press set up for the .357 and load light loads, warm .38 Special loads, and practice alot.
Do that and you will be ok.