J Parker-
The types of encounters that LE faces are no different that those faced by us. The bad guys that non-LEOs face are just as mean, just as dangerous, just as likely to find cover that needs to be penetrated, and just as unlikely to be stopped by a handgun as the ones that LE face. If anything, non-LE need the more powerful round and more of them because they are not wearing armor and they can't always get fast backup, nor do they carry shotguns or rifles at the supermarket or in their car.
An LEO may be more likely to need it (as compared to one randomly chosen person), but once you need a gun there is no difference.
If the .357 SIG is no better than the .45, then why would a cop want one? If it is superior, then why wouldn't you want that advantage since the gun will be the same size anyway? I also disagree that you need nothing more than a hicap 9mm for self defense. If someone is trying to kill me, I don't want any handgun of any caliber. I want a rifle or a 12 ga. If I'm going to carry just a handgun, I'd rather have a 10 shot .45, although it won't matter in most situations.