Women are strange beasts
What is funny about them is that you can make the perfect choice for them, from a logical standpoint. But if it does not <i>look</i> right, she will not like it. It can be very frustrating.
Bring her with you. The Beretta Neos seems to be a great gun, but it looks like a space pistol. It is not for everyone. I think this is the perfect gun for MY wife, but she disagrees. It is accurate, comfortable, and comes with the rail that will allow her to use the red dot sight she likes so well.
I brought her to the shop with me, and she immediately discounted it because she didn’t like the looks. Go figure.
She wouldn’t consider Rugers, because I’ve already got one. (an old Mk. II Target model, which she loves, and shoots like a champ, but says it is too heavy) A 22/45 with either the 4” or 5.5” bull barrel would be good for her, but she has already ruled them out.
The S&W 22A, she ruled out because the grip is too big for her small hands. (fair enough)
She likes the Sig Sauer Mosquito and the Walther P22 Target. Maybe the worst choices for her use. (target shooting) But they feel right to her, and they look right. They are both ammo finicky, from what I’ve read here, but she doesn’t care.
Bottom line is to let HER pick it. Anything she picks, you will also be able to shoot. But if she is not happy, she won’t do it.