1) Colt has used a number of different barrel diameters in their .38 Supers, but most .45 have similar dimensions. Barrel OD is ~.580", and slide ID is ~.700". "Match" bushings are undersized on the ID, and oversized on the OD, so they can be fitted to the individual gun, which may vary a few .001's in either direction. You will find "drop-in match bushings" that are slightly tighter than a Mil-Spec part, splitting the difference between Mil-Spec and fitted. The Commander has approx the same ID and OD dimensions as a Government Model, but the skirt of the bushing is shorter, so it won't interfere with the barrel lugs when cycling. The Colt Officers ACP used a bushing specific to that gun, so bushings intended for the OACP will fit nothing else.
2) The easiest to fit bushing is the EGW angle bore. It requires less fitting than a standard bushing, with similar results. I've fitted them with little more than a strip of emery cloth.
3) Your answere is in your question; because you have to fit it, you get the best possible fit, and therefore, the best accuracy.
4) No. Some are cast, some are MIM, some are forged, and some are barstock. They may all look about the same, but the manufacturing process will determine the accuracy of the dimensions, and the strength/durability of the part. I wouldn't buy a bushing that wasn't fully machined from a forging or barstock.
If you measure your barrel OD, and your slide ID, then take up the Brownells wish book, you may find a drop-in bushing that fits within .001"-.002" of what you want. I've had very good experiences with the EGW drop-in angle bore, in both Colt and Springfield pistols, getting a very nice fit, with little work. A standard bushing is bored concentric to the slide bore, and requires relieving to allow the barrel to swing up into battery. The amount and location of material removed to allow this movement is critical. The angle bore bushing is bored at the critical lock-up angle, and then requires only the non-critical relieving necessary to allow smooth cycling of the slide.